What is a boundary? The dictionary defines a boundary as anything that “indicates or fixes a limit or extent.” Boundaries set limits. They determine the extent of what we will and will not do, where we will or will not go. Laws set boundaries: what is right and what is wrong, what belongs to us and what does not, and what is good and not good for society. Boundaries are necessary not only for an orderly life, but to establish the parameters of justice: what is permissible in society and what is not.
The book of Titus tells us that God's grace sets boundaries. Grace teaches us to say “No”-to set limits on our behavior: to live self-controlled , upright, and Godly lives, not lives lived with boundary-less behavior that indulge in all kinds of passions and lusts. To live in grace means to live with boundaries-with a clear sense of right and wrong, justice and injustice, morality and immorality, as well as truth and falsehood.
We live in an increasingly boundary-less society. There is no longer a core societal understanding of right and wrong or what is moral or immoral. We are bombarded on every side with the temptation to compromise our values and give in to the loudest voice. So many things compete not only for our mental energy, but for our time, our emotions, and our values as well. Too many of us live “at the margins” without boundaries, allowing ourselves to be emotionally and physically drained by every demand in life that comes along.
Again, grace teaches us to set boundaries. Not only does it teach us to say “no” to ungodliness, but it teaches how to self-controlled lives so that we are able to do what God has for us to do and that our lives and relationships are as full as God has designed.